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CUFF Events

CUFF hosts a variety of gatherings. Some of these—such as munches, orientations, and meetings—are held regularly each month and are open to both newcomers and members alike. Other events may occur with less regularity or may have special entrance requirements.


A "munch" is simply a social gathering at a local restaurant. You don't need to be a CUFF Contributor to join us; everyone 18 and up is welcome!

Currently we are holding two munches each month. One is the first Sunday of each month at Brixx Wood Fired Pizza in the Barracks Road Shopping Center; the other is the first Wednesday of each month at Silk Road Asian fusion restaurant in Waynesboro—we call it the "CUFF West" munch. There may also be the occasional additional munch specifically for "the next generation" (TNG)—those individuals between the ages of 18 and 35.

Directions to First-Sunday Munches

Our first-Sunday munches are currently held at Brixx Wood Fired Pizza in the Barracks Road Shopping Center:

Brixx Wood Fired Pizza 1133 Emmet Street North, Charlottesville, VA 22903-4837
Brixx Google map

Directions to CUFF West Munches

Our CUFF West munches are currently held at Silk Road Asian fusion restaurant in Waynesboro:

Silk Road 2040 Rosser Avenue, Waynesboro, VA 22980
Silk Road Google map


We encourage all newcomers to attend an orientation as soon as possible. In fact, attending an orientation is one of the prerequisites for becoming a CUFF Contributor (see CUFF Bylaws Article III Contributorship Status and CUFF Bylaws Article IV Orientations). Currently, an orientation is held each month at the beginning of the gathering at Impulse Gay Social Club; see Meetings section on this page for time and directions. An orientation can also be arranged by special request.

What Will I Learn at an Orientation?

There are several interrelated concepts that are essential to CUFF and the BDSM/fetish community in general. Some of these concepts are embodied in acronyms and initialisms such as SSC, RACK, and CCCC, but it's the message behind the abbreviations that is important. Topics addressed include:

  • Informed Consent
  • Risk Awareness: Health, Physical, Emotional
  • Communication and Negotiating Play
  • Respect for Others
  • Safe calls
  • Safewords
  • Discretion and Privacy
  • Play Party Scene Etiquette
  • Aftercare

An orientation also provides a forum for prospective members to learn more about us and to have a specific chance to ask questions. After the orientation, stay for the regular gathering if you wish.

Monthly Meetings

We currently gather on the third Sunday of each month; the venue is Impulse Gay Social Club on Emmet Street. Orientations begin shortly after 4 p.m., business happens around 5 p.m., and presentations begin around 5:30 p.m.

What Happens At a Meeting?

In our typical meeting format, each monthly gathering begins with an orientation for prospective and returning members. This will be followed by a period of socializing, then by a short business segment, and finally with an educational presentation/demonstration given by one of our own members or by an invited expert from another BDSM group.

The presentations can cover any BDSM/fetish related topic, whether it's flogging, wax-play, or maintaining a master/slave relationship. Sometimes, in lieu of a presentation, we will watch a movie, play a social game, hold a toy swap, share dinner, or engage in a moderated discussion.

Directions to Orientations and Monthly Meetings

Currently, our monthly gatherings are being held at Impulse Gay Social Club on Emmet Street (Route 29). Impulse is located in the same building as Asian Market, Super Amanecer Latino Market, and Ming Dynasty at the Earhart Street intersection across from Bodo's Bagel Bakery.

Impulse Gay Social Club 1417 Emmet Street North, Charlottesville, VA 22903
Impulse Gay Social Club Google map
Impulse Gay Social Club web site

Other Events

Play Parties

Play parties are where the kinky play happens. They are held at private locations and are not open to the general public; you must either be a member of CUFF, a guest of a member, or a member of a reciprocal BDSM group. When you join CUFF, you can opt to join a mailing list so that you can receive invitations to the parties.

CUFF Calendar

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