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CUFF Events

CUFF hosts a variety of gatherings. Some of these—such as munches, orientations, and meetings—are held regularly each month and are open to both newcomers and members alike. Other events may occur with less regularity or may have special entrance requirements.


Traditionally, a "munch" is simply a social gathering at a local restaurant. With the pandemic, CUFF has fudged a bit on the restaurant aspect. Currently, while some of our munches are held at a restaurant, others are held outdoors at a local park and additional others are on-line events held via Zoom videoconference.

You don't need to be a CUFF Contributor to join us; everyone 18 and up is welcome!


We encourage all newcomers to attend an orientation as soon as possible. In fact, attending an orientation is one of the prerequisites for becoming a CUFF Contributor (see CUFF Bylaws Article III Contributorship Status and CUFF Bylaws Article IV Orientations).

What Will I Learn at an Orientation?

There are several interrelated concepts that are essential to CUFF and the BDSM/fetish community in general. Some of these concepts are embodied in acronyms and initialisms such as SSC, RACK, and CCCC, but it's the message behind the abbreviations that is important. Topics addressed include:

  • Informed Consent
  • Risk Awareness: Health, Physical, Emotional
  • Communication and Negotiating Play
  • Respect for Others
  • Safe calls
  • Safewords
  • Discretion and Privacy
  • Play Party Scene Etiquette
  • Aftercare

An orientation also provides a forum for prospective members to learn more about us and to have a specific chance to ask questions. After the orientation, stay for the regular gathering if you wish.

Note: Due to the pandemic, orientations currently are strictly on-line events.

Monthly Meetings

Note: Due to the pandemic, meetings currently are strictly on-line events.

What Happens At a Meeting?

In our typical meeting format, each monthly gathering begins with an orientation for prospective and returning members. This will be followed by a period of socializing, then by a short business segment, and finally with an educational presentation/demonstration given by one of our own members or by an invited expert from another BDSM group.

The presentations can cover any BDSM/fetish related topic, whether it's flogging, wax-play, or maintaining a master/slave relationship. Sometimes, in lieu of a presentation, we will watch a movie, play a social game, hold a toy swap, share dinner, or engage in a moderated discussion.

Other Events

Play Parties

Play parties are where the kinky play happens. They are held at private locations and are not open to the general public; you must either be a member of CUFF, a guest of a member, or a member of a reciprocal BDSM group.

CUFF Calendar

For the most up-to-date information, see the sticky post of upcoming CUFF events.

Import calendar

If the calendar does not appear below, you can try here instead: alternate CUFF calendar

CUFF Events