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CUFF Links to Resources

Affiliated Organizations

Impulse Gay Social Club: https://impulse-gsc.com/
CUFF has been holding its meetings here since January 2014. Please consider joining Impulse to show your support.
NCSF: http://www.ncsfreedom.org
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) is an organization that advocates on behalf of alternative sexuality, including BDSM, polyamory, and swinging. CUFF is a supporting member of the NCSF.

Reciprocal BDSM Groups

CUFF has established reciprocal arrangements with these groups. For details on our reciprocity policy, see Article XI of the CUFF Bylaws.

Black Rose (BR): http://www.br.org
Washington, DC
TIED: http://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/TIED/info
Tidewater/Virginia Beach, VA

Other BDSM Groups in Region

Charlottesville

Rope Bite Charlottesville: https://fetlife.com/groups/99985
Charlottesville, VA
Charlottesville Education: https://fetlife.com/groups/83193
Charlottesville, VA
TNG of Charlottesville: https://fetlife.com/groups/75451
Charlottesville, VA

Richmond

Phyxios Mystique (formerly VA SOCKS): http://phyxios.org/
Richmond, VA
Richmond Lifestyle Group (RLG): https://fetlife.com/groups/36021
Richmond, VA

Staunton/Waynesboro

Shenendoah Valley Fetish Community: http://fetlife.com/groups/4231
Staunton, VA

Roanoke

Roanoke Order of Dominants and Submissives (RODS): http://fetlife.com/groups/50594
Roanoke, VA
Roanoke Va. Lifestyle Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/50704
Roanoke, VA

Other Virginia/DC

Teddy Bear Leather Club of Virginia: http://www.tblcofvirginia.com/
Burkeville, VA
SigMa: http://www.sigmadc.org/
Washington, DC

North Carolina

CAPEX: http://www.capex.info/
Charlotte, NC
La Fortress: https://fetlife.com/groups/730
Triad area, NC (Winston-Salem/Greensboro)
Triangle Munch Group: http://www.trianglemunchgroup.org/
Raleigh-Durham, NC
Tarheel Leather Club, Inc.: http://www.tarheelleatherclub.org/
Greensboro, NC

Defunct

Richmond Organization of Pansexual Entities (ROPE): https://fetlife.com/users/1405705
Richmond, VA [Note: This is a deceased group. The FetLife page details the group's history.]
Shelter: http://fetlife.com/groups/4360/about
Richmond, VA [Note: This group is defunct.]

BDSM and Sexuality Information

A Brief Introduction to BDSM: http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm.html
BDSM resource site created by Franklin Veaux
Getting Kinky — BDSM 101 : http://www.anakednotion.org/kink/getting-kinky-bdsm-101/
An excellent introductory BDSM educational video, part of a sex education series called "A Naked Notion with Laci Green" produced by Planned Parenthood of Northern New England.
BDSM Emblem Project: http://emblemproject.sagcs.net/
Describes the history and meaning of the BDSM Emblem.
NCSF Statement on Consent: Consent Statement
A document which talks about consent in the context of BDSM relationships; the ethical and legal principles of consent; the concept of risk; consent as an informed, revocable, choice; and the importance of communication when considering consent.
From "SSC" and "RACK" to the "4Cs": http://www.ejhs.org/volume17/BDSM.html
An article which introduces the CCCC (Caring, Communication, Consent, and Caution) framework for negotiating BDSM participation
Greenery Press: http://www.greenerypress.com/
Publishes a large number of educational books on BDSM and kink.
International Foundation for Gender Education: http://www.ifge.org/
Advocacy organization for gender expression
San Francisco Sex Information: http://www.sfsi.org/
An organization that provides anonymous sex information and referrals by phone and email.
Scarleteen: http://www.scarleteen.com/
This is an excellent, frank, source of sexual information targeted towards teens and families. It's searchable: try "BDSM" or "kink".

Other Sites of Interest

UVA Queer Student Union: https://atuva.student.virginia.edu/organization/queerstudentunion
CUFF members have presented at the QSU on several occasions.
The Crucible: http://www.the-crucible.com/
This is a BDSM and swingers club in Washington, DC.
Fallout: http://www.falloutrva.com/
Alternative club in Richmond, VA. "Alternative" in this case means fetish, BDSM, Goth, industrial, EBM, and roleplay.

Presenters at CUFF Meetings

Dragontailz: http://www.dragontailz.com/
Presentation by Master Z of Dragontailz Dragontails, 2011NOV
RopePleasures: http://fetlife.com/users/20297
Presentation by RopePleasures of RELEASE Advanced rope work, 2011APR
SnoweyTiger: http://fetlife.Com/users/28812
Presentation by SnoweyTiger from Richmond Violet Wand, 2010AUG
Sarah Sloane: https://fetlife.com/users/650
Advanced Needle Play and Play Piercing, 2010JUN
RopePleasures: http://fetlife.com/users/20297
Presentation by RopePleasures of RELEASE Basic rope work, 2010MAR
Sarah Sloane: https://fetlife.com/users/650
Polyamory – A View From The Trenches, 2010FEB
Nefarious: http://fetlife.com/users/63762
Presentation by Nefarious of Raleigh-Durham, NC. Takedowns: Not Just Stomp Them And Whomp Them!, 2009MAY
Mary Motley Kalergis: http://www.mmkphoto.com/
Charlottesville area photographer Mary Motley Kalergis discussed her photographs from the American Brotherhood Convention and the Mid-Atlantic Leather Convention. The photos were on display at Club 216 as part of Charlottesville's Festival of the Photograph. "Leather Family" Photographs, 2007JUN